And so it goes, my wish is for her, to forever be treated like a princess and may her tiara always hold firm. My good friend’s beautiful daughter is getting married. Today was her bridal shower. That for me was the quote that stuck. “I can’t bend over, my tiara will fall off.” I just love it, on so many different levels.
The second memorable quote was by a guest who commented “I’ve been married twice, I know how to do this.” It was only the second shower I have ever attended in my life I think, and it was spectacular. My friend did an amazing job.
My friend, who saves helpless and sick children’s lives by day and plans her only daughters wedding by night, weekend and between breaths, after months of living in fight or flight mode, is beyond the meltdown stage. I would say she is at that stage, I don’t know the exact scientific name of it, but it would be where you are so fried you just turn back into pure energy. Poof!
Being in a room full of gorgeous 20 somethings wearing short shorts and mini dresses, cellulite free, varicose vein free will bring the stark contrast of where we are on our personal journey, front and center. At some point I jumped the fence to the other side. The side where the life in front of me is very different from when I was 20 something. Did it turn out to be all that I thought it would in my 20′s? Hell no, way better than I ever would have thought of on my own.
I had the privilege of hanging out with my Rent-A-Mom who is 87 and the most adorable person I know. If I were to build a mom from scratch, it would turn out like her. She is getting ready, psychologically for right now, to move out of her home of about 45 years, to a place where she will be safer. Someone to remind her to take her meds and be there if she falls. We talked about how difficult it is to give up your independence, the driving and now living on her own. All these transitions of life flow naturally, when it is time to jump the fence and give up something that we can’t have anymore because it no longer works, actually seems to no longer exist, then we have to jump and be grateful we still have a fence in front of us. Each stage of life is a gift that not everyone gets to experience and for whatever reason our society seems to only focus on the first couple of stages like we are all supposed to stay there forever. It’s all so rich whatever the challenges. She will make new friends and from what I know about those places they party like it’s 1994 all the time.
Anyway, here are a few pics from today that sent me on this little mental whatever.